I agree with advice to get into gardening with other plants consistently. I had a neighbour who would always watch through the fence too often before it was replaced, and being busy with other outside gardening activities helps a lot.
Smell wise you’ll have to try and work with a strain that doesn’t produce a lot of stink outside of itself. I have grown a few now that have great terps when touched or ground up, though on regular smell up close or while growing hardly noticeable.
Biggest outlier was the Dante’s revenge. Craft strain from two chronic cuts and it didn’t have a single smell. I swear I could have run it without a carbon filter almost.